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A girl’s relationship with her father is one of the most important, if not the most important, interactions she will encounter in her lifetime. This relationship will shape the way that girls maneuver relationships and view themselves for the rest of their lives. Within the black community, too many depictions of broken families and absent fathers swarm media and imagery that we come across everyday. Unfortunately, this narrative is all too common in the lives of young black girls. When a father isn’t there for his daughter, this action sets off a chain of events that leave women looking for love in the wrong places, accepting abuse and calling it love, stepping into roles they aren’t ready for and more. It’s up to us to change our narrative and help to build those affected by it.
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Change begins when we take charge in changing our narratives. I’m so proud to announce that my friend, fellow CAU alumna and one of the most inspiring and driven people I know, Samara Jordan, is taking charge of our story. With her first book Daddy Tells Me, she shows a young black girl’s relationship with her father, showing the love and affirmations that help to shape her view of herself. It shows the beauty and power that stems from a father being there to actively support and cherish the beautiful being that is forever a part of him. Samara takes us on a journey that everyone can learn from.
Daddy Tells Me is set to release at Samara’s book release event next month on April 15. It is so important that we support books like this, especially in support of young black authors. I cannot wait to support my friend! It is my hope that you all will support this major as well.
Samara and I had the opportunity to discuss Daddy Tells Me, her own relationship with her father, her goal with this book and more! Check out the conversation we had below!
Shatay Speights: Tell the readers a little bit about yourself.
Samara Jordan: I’m a Spring ‘16 graduate of THE Clark Atlanta University. I studied Fashion Merchandising and Business Management. Although I excelled academically in my fashion studies, I could not (and still cannot) shake the fact that my heart is in education. Currently, I am on an alternative track serving as an AmeriCorps member with City Year. I was recently accepted into the NYC Teaching Fellows program; in May I will begin teaching fulltime and pursing my Master’s degree in education and a certificate to work with Special Education students specifically.
SS: That's amazing! Kudos to following your heart...Give us a brief summation of your book.
SJ: Daddy Tells Me is a story that depicts my actual relationship with my own father (who is a single dad) and the sort of “fairytale” relationship with our dad that we all dream of. Growing up with a single father makes me really unique and I genuinely appreciate the experience. However, everything was not perfect and there were some situations where I wish my father’s reaction/response could have been a bit different. We live and we learn. I want the story to encourage fathers to be transparent, nurturing, and supportive. I hope that Daddy Tells Me can be a guide to fathers everywhere, especially fathers of color who are slept on.
SS: What inspired you to write this book?
SJ: Aside from my own selfish desires of being every kid’s favorite teacher and a New York Times best seller, my father inspired me. That’s my right hand man. Also, my generation and the youth inspired me to put myself out there, especially at a time like this when people of color are being marginalized and murdered. We matter! We deserve to read about characters that look like us, we deserve a quality education, and we deserve role models who are willing to pave the way.
SS: Indeed we do! How has your dad inspired you? & how has he affirmed you over the years?
SJ: My dad inspires me by supporting me in everything that I do and allowing me to be an individual. He has affirmed me over the years by instilling in me the importance of hard work and hustle. We have this thing where he asks, “How long are you supposed to work hard?” and I respond, “Until you die!”
SS: That's quite the mantra. In what ways are you like your dad?
SJ: My father is funny, nurturing and super passionate! Our passion is often mistaken for being dramatic, but we get each other.
SS: Aww, like father like daughter. So to you, what does a young girl's relationship with her father mean/ represent?
SJ: A young girl’s relationship with her father represents her relationship with men throughout the rest of her life.
SS: How can this book be an inspiration to young girls or even young women whose fathers aren't in their lives?
SJ: This book can be an inspiration for young girls regardless of whether or not their fathers are or were present. The advice written in the book is not meant for face value; its meant to be taken literally and seriously. It is a representation of how they should all view themselves and how they should expect a man to treat them.
SS: In your book, the young girl wears a crown. How important was it to display this image of young black girls as queens? & how can young girls/ women embrace their inner queendom?
SJ: Black Girl Magic is a real thing. We are royal, and we are the crème of the crop! There are people who would kill for our features, whether it be physical or within. Everything that makes us who we are is a hot commodity, and young Black girls need to know this at an early age so that outside sources can’t tell them differently. Young girls/ women can embrace their inner queendom by seeing the magic in someone else and helping them see it as well. We have to take care of each other.
SS: We sure do. Sisterhood, especially in the black community, is so important. What are your plans for this book and beyond? Do you see more books in the future?
SJ: I plan to have a book release an April and self-publish to start. Maybe I’ll get picked up by a publisher, maybe not. But either way there are definitely more books to come!
Daddy Tells Me will be available very soon!
Congratulations are definitely in order! Continue to shine your light, queen!
Make sure to follow Samara on her social media for daily doses of inspiration, black girl magic and more book details! FB - Samara Jordan | IG - @muva.mara
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